What I have been considering recently, which again I went to bed with last night is this idea of how we treat each other! I found that generally speaking, if you are someone “important” so to speak, almost everyone will like to get to know you, some may even pretend they know you. However, I began to question what about the “not so important”, or perhaps I should rephrase and say those that some people consider “unimportant”. The “unimportant” are possibly the ones that are not making the social news, they are not making the biggest business deals, they aren’t the one that have all the swag. The “unimportant” are simply those whose title no matter what it may be are just not quite as important as yours. No they are not as intelligent as me, possibly? Everyone fits in somewhere, don’t we all?
I considered and I judged myself and realised that I have been so condescending towards some people. Someone close to me puts it this way, whenever they were trying to boost my esteem. They’d say Abi when you walk into a room, there are three categories of people you will come by:
1. Those who feel superior to you
2. Those you feel superior to
3. Those who feel inferior to you
My friend’s aim was to get me to understand that no matter how uncomfortable I feel in a place, there is always someone that feels more uncomfortable than I do. And yes, that did boost my confidence, at least it helped me to get pass those moments of feeling insecure.
Notwithstanding, I began to consider those that I feel superior to and how I possibly treated them. No I am not rude, but surely I have thought not once or twice that I was better than some people and that made me feel good about myself. As a result, my tone when I’m speaking to them may come across as superior, who knows?
One thing I have learnt and that is undoubtedly true is that time passes, things change and people grow. Some people that I have shut the door to in the past, now today, are making names for themselves. I can’t now go and extend a hand of friendship and ask them to come in through the same door I once shut. Likewise, not everyone that shut the door in my face previously can do the same. In fact, some of us would be so humbled now: lesson learnt!
The lesson is this, don’t wait for someone to be ‘better’ than you before you can be kind to them. You don’t have to step on top of anyone to make yourself feel more important. Now is the time to be kind, to be nice, to be warm, because tomorrow you may not even be able to get an appointment to see that important person, forget being kind, nice and warm!